What Is the Swinger Lifestyle? A Plain-English Guide for Couples
What swinging really means, how couples get started, and what the lifestyle is (and isn't).
What swinging means
Swinging, often just called "the lifestyle," is when a committed couple chooses, together, to have social or intimate experiences with other people. The key word is together. It's a decision both partners make, with rules both partners set, and either partner can say no at any time.
It's a spectrum, not one thing
Plenty of couples never go past flirting, dancing and making out with another couple. Others enjoy soft swap (everything except intercourse with someone else) or full swap. Some only play in the same room; others are comfortable with separate rooms. There's no right level. The best couples in the lifestyle are the ones who know their own rules and stick to them.
Who's in the lifestyle
Mostly ordinary married and long-term couples, usually in their 30s to 50s, who have strong relationships and want more adventure. Single women and some single men take part too, almost always by invitation of a couple.
How couples usually start
Most start by talking: what's exciting, what's off-limits, what would make either of you uncomfortable. Then they meet another couple for drinks with no expectations, or go to a lifestyle club just to watch and dance. Taking it slow is normal and respected.
Why verification matters
The biggest complaint about lifestyle sites is fake profiles and single men posing as couples. SwingSet verifies every member's ID before they can see anyone, and couples verify together, so the people you meet are who they say they are.
Join free and get verifiedNew to the lifestyle?
Joining is free. You verify your ID before you can see anyone, so every profile is a real, verified person.
Keep reading
- Swinger Etiquette: 12 Rules Every Couple Should Know
- Your First Time at a Swingers Club: What to Expect
- Soft Swap vs. Full Swap: What's the Difference?
- How to Avoid Fake Profiles on Swinger Sites