Soft Swap vs. Full Swap: What's the Difference?
Soft swap, full swap, same room, separate room: what the terms mean and how to choose.
Soft swap
Everything except intercourse with someone other than your partner: kissing, touching, oral, depending on the couple. Many couples stay soft for years and love it.
Full swap
Intercourse with another partner is on the table. Full swap couples usually have clear rules about protection and whether it happens in the same room.
Same room or separate room
Same room means you play where you can see each other. Separate room means you're comfortable apart. Many couples start same room and stay there.
How to choose
Start with the least you're both excited about, not the most either of you would tolerate. You can always add; it's harder to take back.
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